This is the time when those marrieds of you can offer advice and counsel. The unmarrieds are free to berate the concept of marriage whilst carrying on a more realistic and literal existence of unfullfillment, whine about how they will die alone, etc.
Soon I will be taking my place amongst the marrieds
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Seems to be the norm, not surprisingly. Perhaps it is because those who are happiest in matrimony don't spend much time speaking it's praises. Or maybe such praise is just simply less interesting and sensational or worse, just plain annoying. Truth be told, I'm a closeted humanist and optimist. I was surprised to discover this about myself but I guess going through this whole ridiculous process sort of underscores the fact.
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Seems to be the norm, not surprisingly.
Oh, I don't think it's the norm. Most people feel pretty cut up when they get divorced.
It's just a personal thing. Like, the difference between liking images of wild horses vs. bridled horses. Some people think wild horses seem free and gorgeous and powerful, and some people see utter beauty in the image of such a powerful animal letting someone bridle and ride it. Power submitting to docility out of trust or love.
I'm more of a running herd of mustang girl, myself.
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Since I've never been married, I can't give any official marriage advice.
But my lady-friend and I have been together since before Jawbreaker broke up, so I do have one observation to make: don't turn into your parents. Many people get married and think they need to start acting like married people, and then they begin to emulate their most familiar models, their parents. Just keep pretending you and your lady are still dating and negotiating everything and you should be just fine.
Oh, and forget about sex after the first year.
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