Okay, so people often think I'm anti-social. But honestly, it's because I'm a person all about extremes. In other words, I either talk nonstop or hardly talk at all, depending on the situation. Most people only see the hardly-talking part of me. Not to say I don't stand up for what I believe in, because I do. I think it's really important to do so.
Still, I always figured I could get along well enough without a lot of people in my life. Which I kinda have to do now, as I work around 40 hours a week along with doing volunteer work. And I recently had a big fight with my best guy friend and also crush, and I don't think he and I will be talking much anymore. I'm not meaning to complain here, just kind of thinking about this all. The only person I really see anymore outside of work is my mother, and she and I don't really talk, other than yelling at each other. It's pretty lonely sometimes.
Which leads me to another point: Montana is a lonely place in general, for people like me. Not that there aren't people here; there are plenty of people in the city I live in. There's just no diversity. Everyone my age is either a straight blonde chick who does pot on weekends, listens to hip-hop, and is on volleyball team. And here I am, an opinionated bisexual brunette who is into punk and can't hit a volleyball to save her life. There are few people actually worth talking to here.
And that makes me wonder: can truly antisocial people be lonely? I know a few kids who generally don't enjoy other peoples' company, no matter what the individual may have to offer. People like that; do they ever get lonely?
Just a thought. ^__^'
XOXO
Jeeez!! I wrote this long reply and then stupidly clicked on something else. Gone. Damn.
Anyways - I think if truly anti-social people do exist, there are, like, two in the world. Most people would love to make connections with other people but feel that they can't. This is how I felt for many years growing up - afraid to express myself to others because they might shoot me down, or humiliate me. Of course, that's completely irrational because each person puts herself on the line, every day. That's how the world works.
Maybe try talking to your friend. Don't automatically give up; it seems like arguments between friends either get worked out or just fade into the past.